Comments on: December 5, 2009 http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/ Thu, 20 May 2010 01:59:08 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Lori Schneider http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-246 Lori Schneider Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:59:25 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-246 Judith, I can relate personally to what you wrote. I appreciate your honesty and willingness to be transparent. I think it helps others who are struggling with the same thing. We are 3 and a half years from our fourteen year old son's death. Grief is not pretty. I think you made a mention of C.S. Lewis' book, A Grief Observed. That book said things I felt bad for just thinking! It was helpful to know that I was not alone - that others have gone through immense grief and pain before me - and that they were surviving it. Grief is something that has to be worked through and it is a LONG process. A lifetime. I am so thankful that I am the child of a gracious, merciful heavenly Father who is walking that road with me. Life never does feel the same. I am thankful for a more eternal perspective although I still cling more to this life than I should! I enjoyed reading your adoption stories. It is great to see God at work in weaving together families. The pain that your early adoption experience brought is beyond my ability to conceive how hard that was. We have adopted two girls from India and are in the process of adopting a boy. We were just told that the orphanage is having second thoughts about us for this boy - after spending thousands of dollars and about eight+ months of our lives devoted to making it happen! Not to mention falling in love with him and considering him our son already. Very frustrating to say the least. Our agency is hopeful that it will eventually go through, but the wait is so hard when the outcome is in question! It is easy to say that the Lord is in sovereign control and that we rest in that - easy to say, not always easy to trust in! Our walk of faith is a battle every day, isn't it? Thanks for the encouragement! Lori Judith,
I can relate personally to what you wrote. I appreciate your honesty and willingness to be transparent. I think it helps others who are struggling with the same thing. We are 3 and a half years from our fourteen year old son’s death. Grief is not pretty. I think you made a mention of C.S. Lewis’ book, A Grief Observed. That book said things I felt bad for just thinking! It was helpful to know that I was not alone – that others have gone through immense grief and pain before me – and that they were surviving it.

Grief is something that has to be worked through and it is a LONG process. A lifetime. I am so thankful that I am the child of a gracious, merciful heavenly Father who is walking that road with me. Life never does feel the same. I am thankful for a more eternal perspective although I still cling more to this life than I should!

I enjoyed reading your adoption stories. It is great to see God at work in weaving together families. The pain that your early adoption experience brought is beyond my ability to conceive how hard that was.

We have adopted two girls from India and are in the process of adopting a boy. We were just told that the orphanage is having second thoughts about us for this boy – after spending thousands of dollars and about eight+ months of our lives devoted to making it happen! Not to mention falling in love with him and considering him our son already. Very frustrating to say the least. Our agency is hopeful that it will eventually go through, but the wait is so hard when the outcome is in question!

It is easy to say that the Lord is in sovereign control and that we rest in that – easy to say, not always easy to trust in! Our walk of faith is a battle every day, isn’t it?

Thanks for the encouragement! Lori

]]> By: Kelly http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-243 Kelly Sun, 17 Jan 2010 21:31:32 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-243 Judith- I ran across your blog from the Together for Adoption website. I went through and read each of your children's stories. I've read many people's blogs on adoption/fertility and let me tell you, that I have never cried so much after reading a stranger's story. I want to say thank you for opening yourself up and allowing others to be apart of the journey that your family is on. I too have experienced the joys and pains of infertility, disrupted adoption, adoption and fertility. There are so many things in our story as well as yours that make me ask "why God?" and I still don't have an answer and probably never will. But I still know that God is good and will heal us in His timing and in His way. Thank you for sharing your heart, you have encouraged this stranger more than you know. Judith- I ran across your blog from the Together for Adoption website. I went through and read each of your children’s stories. I’ve read many people’s blogs on adoption/fertility and let me tell you, that I have never cried so much after reading a stranger’s story. I want to say thank you for opening yourself up and allowing others to be apart of the journey that your family is on. I too have experienced the joys and pains of infertility, disrupted adoption, adoption and fertility. There are so many things in our story as well as yours that make me ask “why God?” and I still don’t have an answer and probably never will. But I still know that God is good and will heal us in His timing and in His way. Thank you for sharing your heart, you have encouraged this stranger more than you know.

]]> By: Tiffany Moody http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-239 Tiffany Moody Sat, 02 Jan 2010 01:53:31 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-239 Judith - I read your blog regularly and I am always moved. Your story left me wrestling with God and I was so distant from it...I can only get a glimpse of how it has affected you. I find your honesty and ability to share to be truly amazing and I appreciate your heart. Judith – I read your blog regularly and I am always moved. Your story left me wrestling with God and I was so distant from it…I can only get a glimpse of how it has affected you. I find your honesty and ability to share to be truly amazing and I appreciate your heart.

]]> By: Mindy http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-235 Mindy Thu, 17 Dec 2009 19:26:45 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-235 Sweet friend! Thank you for being real. I struggled with all of the same things and had all of the same thoughts. I still do sometimes. Christmas Day will be 5 years since I had Emmie, and you are so right....life is just never the same. The grief gets less intense, but it never goes away. I find myself a little moody and sad every year around this time. Give yourself some grace in your thoughts. You'd be inhuman if you were able to go through this without questions and resentments. I'm praying for you! Sweet friend! Thank you for being real. I struggled with all of the same things and had all of the same thoughts. I still do sometimes. Christmas Day will be 5 years since I had Emmie, and you are so right….life is just never the same. The grief gets less intense, but it never goes away. I find myself a little moody and sad every year around this time. Give yourself some grace in your thoughts. You’d be inhuman if you were able to go through this without questions and resentments. I’m praying for you!

]]> By: kristin wyatt http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-234 kristin wyatt Sun, 06 Dec 2009 01:00:24 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-234 love you love you

]]> By: Kate Von Glahn http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-233 Kate Von Glahn Sat, 05 Dec 2009 15:29:11 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-233 Judith - I found your blog through Kristin Wyatt's blog. I know her from Athens at the Wesley Foundation. I am like Tracy and want to say that I hear you. I am believing that you will find peace and answers enough for your own heart. Thank you for trusting those of us who read your blog. Judith – I found your blog through Kristin Wyatt’s blog. I know her from Athens at the Wesley Foundation. I am like Tracy and want to say that I hear you. I am believing that you will find peace and answers enough for your own heart. Thank you for trusting those of us who read your blog.

]]> By: Tracy http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Tracy Sat, 05 Dec 2009 14:59:11 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-232 Judith, please know I think of you often and am praying for you. I know we often blog to release - to get our feelings out of our head and onto something we can see. I also know that when you write something as personal as this and get little response, how it makes us feel uncared for, ignored, alone. I don't want you to feel that way. It's just that your posts are so enlightening, and I think not just to us but to you also. You always end with your own encouragement. So if we, as your readers, ever seem quiet - know that we can see God working in you, speaking to you, and reaching out to you. But also know we are praying for Him to continue to heal and speak to you. I may not have perfect words to encourage you, but still care. - Love to all! Judith,
please know I think of you often and am praying for you. I know we often blog to release – to get our feelings out of our head and onto something we can see. I also know that when you write something as personal as this and get little response, how it makes us feel uncared for, ignored, alone. I don’t want you to feel that way. It’s just that your posts are so enlightening, and I think not just to us but to you also. You always end with your own encouragement. So if we, as your readers, ever seem quiet – know that we can see God working in you, speaking to you, and reaching out to you. But also know we are praying for Him to continue to heal and speak to you. I may not have perfect words to encourage you, but still care. – Love to all!

]]> By: Melissa DeBardeleben http://mcbabies.com/2009/12/05/december-5-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Melissa DeBardeleben Sat, 05 Dec 2009 13:25:12 +0000 http://mcbabies.com/?p=284#comment-231 I am truly touched by you sharing your heart. I will pray that God will give you a peace during this "war of emotions". I have never experienced this loss or struggle, but I know how it is to be in bondage to thoughts and sin. God is using you to bring others to him. (I know you through Ryan Compton, I met you five years ago at Moes, I was glad to find your blog) I am truly touched by you sharing your heart. I will pray that God will give you a peace during this “war of emotions”. I have never experienced this loss or struggle, but I know how it is to be in bondage to thoughts and sin. God is using you to bring others to him. (I know you through Ryan Compton, I met you five years ago at Moes, I was glad to find your blog)

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